How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

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Mel Robbins is a married working mother of three, an ivy-educated criminal lawyer, and one of the top career and relationship experts in America. Widely respected for her grab-’em-by-the-collar advice and tough love, Robbins drills through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want. Her approach is smart, effective and entertaining. Five days a week, Mel hosts her own syndicated radio show The Mel Robbins Show, discussing hot topics and giving advice to callers across America. She is starring in a new series, In-Laws, airing this summer on A&E. In addition, she writes a monthly column for Success Magazine, is a former CNBC contributor and is the co-founder of Advice for Living, Inc., which develops products and television programming with experts in the wellness, health, relationship and career categories.

Most nights, once the kids are in bed, you’ll find Mel at home with a bourbon on the rocks and her Australian Shepherd at her feet, writing about life, love and everything else on her award-winning blog:

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20 Comments on “How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF”

  1. How can anyone possibly enjoy this talk. She's loud and aggressive. She doesn't say anything interesting or original. I tolerated like nails on the chalk-board 7 minutes. Here's a tip for all Americans – be intelligent, novel, and interesting, not just loud.

  2. But, doesn't the American Dream require people to not settle and basically never be satisfied?

  3. Truly inspirational! I'm going to work on my money now, and make triple I usually would have! I'm going to get my abs! I'm going to dominate the Minecraft Server! I'm going to conquer the Multiverse! For nothing is out of my grasp if I think it!

  4. 17:24 "I don't care about how you feel, I care about what you want" C'mon!! This doesn't make any sense. Isn't what you want often driven from how you feel? (e.g. Feeling thirsty=wanting water – feeling sad=wanting support – feeling bored=should quit this video but feeling opinionated=wanting to write a comment) You just can't stop having feelings otherwise you should just stop living shouldn't you, being screwed is part of life, we trigger feelings in others others trigger feelings in us we're all screwing each other is what you're saying? Well that's life ay!

  5. 8:02 Would have been better if she said gazillion instead of trillion since she didn't care about counting the zeros!

  6. so I'm back on the computer after 6 hours of deep cleaning the house. the stuff she said really worked

  7. How can I feel like I am never good enough yet feel like nothing is good enough for me????

  8. I just wasted 21:39 of my life. I'm going to stop screwing myself by listening to such pablum – this is seriously weak sauce.

  9. I love how she desperately tries to escape the hot spotlights but they keep lighting up new ones on the dark spots she finds.

  10. "Dad was such a drag.. Every day he'd eat the same kind of food, dress the same, sit in front of the same kind of games.. Yeah, he was just that kind of guy."

  11. And within 5 seconds, I decided to debate why the 5 second rule isn't always the best idea. If you make a decision, within 5 seconds, very often it will be short term gratification at the expense of a long term goal. Poor impulse control is a hallmark trait of ADHD, which is something I know quite a bit about. I've dealt with it my whole life, but only was diagnosed a few years ago. Now I can look back and see where decisions made on impulse have had a negative (and some very drastic) outcome. It can be good for some situations, but it isn't a strategy for everything. Sometimes, your brain needs to pull the handbrake. This is something that those of us with ADHD actually have trouble with. Doing something dangerous, exciting, new, etc gives us a rush of the chemicals in our brains that we normally are lacking. Sometimes it is very difficult to put the brakes on, and think about future consequences of what we were about to jump into.
    I'm not saying Mel is wrong, and that acting on an idea within 5 seconds is a bad idea, but you have to be able to be selective about using it. It is contradicting to tell people to gravitate to people, places, and ideas that will benefit you and help you to progress, but you have 5 seconds to judge that feeling but not talk yourself out of a decision to act on it. You need to have some balance, because you can't really evaluate future implications of a decision that is made that quickly.

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